Anyone that is familiar with my life knows that stuff seems to happen to me. Not just the typical stuff, but really stupid stuff. I handle it with minimal fuss. I just am who I am.
My father has always been a sore point in my life. He pretty much has the ability to trash everyone around him and make it look like the other person's fault. I have moved beyond this by not speaking to him. He is outside of my life. He can look in anytime he wants as long as he does not disturb my family. He doesn't send my kids birthday cards or christmas presents. And they don't even know he's alive. Well, my oldest kids do, but they don't ask about him. They understand how I feel. For those that don't know, I have a sister. She is ten months older than my oldest child. We have never been really "close" as we have so many years between us. That does not mean, however, that we don't love each other. That has never been an issue. As she got older and my dad and her mom got a divorce, things became strained between us. She had a great relationship with dad and didn't understand why I did not. I did not want her to know all the things he had done to my brother and I before she came along. Well, to make a long story short, she finally nagged me into telling her the truth. Let's just say we didn't speak for a long time. I was accused of being on her mother's side. I don't think I was on anyone's side but hers but hey, what do I know?! We started building our relationship after my grandfather's funeral in 06. She missed the attack on my person by dad and our mutual step-monster, thankfully. We have been talking and I finally got to spend a wonderful weekend with my sis last October. It was just the two of us. It was great. I think she finally realized that I love her for who she is and we can be friends AND sisters. It's great! And I got her to wear a dress...Rennaissance style! (see below) Yeah, buddy. And since my sis is a rugby player, you know a dress is a HUGE deal...During this time, she has been slowly building a relationship with her mom again. It's been slow going but things were looking up. Now the real drama begins. My idiot father decided that he would throw my sis out. She moves in with mom. And I don't know the whole story except that I knew it was coming. When the child no longer is appealing to my dad, he throws you to the wolves. You are trash. You don't do exactly as he requires, you are garbage. I hate that she has to go through this. But it was inevitable. He is what he is. As my hubby says, it's all tigers and stripes.
So, Lynds, if you are reading this, you are not alone. And I still love you.
This is me and my sis in October of 2007.
6 comments:
It's amazing to se someone speak on something they know NOTHING about.
Wow. I actually do know something about it...thanks for the comment. I love how you signed your name to this. Brave aren't we!? If you don't like what I have to say, um, don't read my blog, sugar! Kisses...
Sweetie, if you want me to disappear, then why are you reading my blog? Not sure why you feel the need to stir stuff up with me, but that's your problem, not mine. As for you and your mom, well, I really have nothing to say to either of you. You can vent whatever you want, whenever you want, and I have the option of not giving a crap! Yay! That's the beauty of moving on! I don't spew my crap at Dad or you or your mother at all. I don't speak to any of you! So why don't you stay off my blog and go play somewhere else! You don't know me or my circumstances at all. You only have my dad's story and you can take it with a grain of salt...or not, I don't care. Ta ta, love. Have a nice life. I won't be allowing any more of your comments...
Oh, and one more thing. Leave my brother out of your "word vomit". You never knew him and your very mention of him makes me see exactly what kind of person you are. Now go cry to your daddy, big girl.
Okay......stepsis has no clue of what you and Brian's life was like. You and I both know what transpired in your growing up. We''l see if she still calls him dad in the next few years when his wondering body parts find and younger and better girl than what he's married to now. How much did he run around and leave his wife (your mom) and his firts two children? okay stepsis...you need to get the facts straight and pull your head of the fantasy world you're living in. I am a family memeber of Chrissy's and she is not full of shit and hatered. You need to step into the real world here and this compassion you so readily speak of.....you have no idea what Chrissy and Brian and Vicki have been through. He may be prince charming to your mother now...but wait and see what the future will bring. Lynd's has her relationship with her dad becasue she chooses to have one. Are there going to be issues that arise? Oh yeah...you bet...but who doesn't. The truth...you wouldn't know if it came up and bit you square on your ass! What relationship Chrissy and Lynd's have..you need to mind your own business and leave them be. Your interfierance (as well as your mother and other siblings) need to step off and leave them alone. Chrissy has been there for Lynd's whenever she can...you don't have any such knowledge of what transpires between the two of them. You say that Lynd's would tell the truth in front of you guys? You're bullies and nosey little gossips! Why don't you disapeer and go cry to your mommy little girl. Oh...and you're smart....leaving your phone number on the internet for anyone to call! What a dumbass you are!
I am re-posting this after an edit. After all, I am not a person that takes personal safety lightly. I realized after I allowed this comment to be posted, that it contained personal information that could be used to find the poster. It has been editted to remove that information, but the main body of the post is left for all to see.
Here it is:
I can't take this anymore. I understand that having a good relationship with your parents is rare these days. GOD I KNOW THIS. But fuck! Some children need to understand that believe it or not part of the responsibility lies on the child to build that relationship as well.
Christina I will speak to you as directly as I can because I don't have your phone number, otherwise I'd call you. And I'll do you one better. Anytime you want, call me (XXX) XXX-XXXX, because I'm not one of those people that just has word vomit and will defame others on the internet without speaking to the person directly, or as directly as possible.
For the record, Lyndsay was not kicked out. I don't know what she told you, but if you ask her in front of any one of us who lived in the house I know she will be honest. And if you felt so bad for her why in the hell didn't you attempt to be in her life, no matter how much your relationship with her was strained. SHIT OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS STRAINED WHILE SHE STRUGGLED THROUGH HIGH SCHOOL AND I WAS STILL THERE. WHERE IN THE FUCK WERE YOU? I WAS THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE WAS IN HER CAR ACCIDENT, I WAS THERE WHEN HER MOTHER TERRORIZED HER, I WAS THERE WHEN SHE WAS FIGHTING WITH HER FRIENDS, I WAS THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDED SOMEONE TO VENT TO, I WAS THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE WAS FAILING SCHOOL AND I WAS THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE GRADUATED.
You need to get over your "abandonment" issues. You weren't fucking raped for over a decade and you were beaten unconcious. You got off lucky but you're too stupid to see that. So if you want to be mad because he didn't buy you a pony for your birthday 20 years ago, fine go ahead but don't drag others into your anger. Seek therapy.
Brian is gone. Leave him in peace instead of blaming Dad for his death anytime you don't get what you want. His memory is not yours to disgrace and that is all I have ever heard you do.
Stop manipulating your littler sister. And don't say you didn't either. You said yourself that your relationship with her was strained for a long time. Your relationship was strained BECAUSE you couldn't get over the fact that Lyndsay loves him and Lyndsay didn't allow you to cram your hate down her throat.
Finally, my mother is none of your concern. You have no right to speak about her to anyone, at anytime. She is a better person than you could ever be and she proved that by fighting for Lyndsay and being there for her, even when she probably shouldn't have, and you were no where around. She will not get into a pissing match with you because she loves your father and would rather let you run your stupid mouth instead of express her opinion about you. In fact, she would probably be displeased to see that I will be the one "speaking" to you about all of this bullshit. She feels that your words are meaningless because you chose hate over love when it came to your family, and and that I should not let your hate rent space in my head. However, I am a grown woman, and I am well aware of what consequences may come from me finally saying something.
I think it is now clear just what kind of person you are and nobody, not even your sister, should have to be subject to your hate and misery. Leave us alone, stop trying to stir up trouble. If you must open your mouth to anyone about this family, say it to this family. Otherwise, you words will be discredited by your own unwillingness to speak them openly. But for God's sake, just disappear and leave this family alone. We are happy, and just because you can't sleep at night knowing that we are happy is not our problem. Just dissappear, Please!
You want to know who left that message and this one? I'll tell you.
I AM ONE OF FOUR WOMEN IN THIS WORLD WHO PROUDLY CALL YOUR FATHER DAD!
March 10, 2008 3:31 PM
**Thanks Candace for your kind words*
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